Treatment - I know that you often hear a cliché
nowadays called ‘mind, body and spirit’, but these are the three areas
I have concentrated on since being diagnosed with cancer three years ago.
It has been important to ensure that quality of life is the main
objective, because you can become totally absorbed in health matters, and
miss the joy in life! After taking stock of my life, I :
- Reassessed my lifestyle. I thought about what gave me stress and ‘what brings me joy
- Learned to live today to the fullest
(don’t look too far ahead) and ensure that you have joy built into
every day. This might be
just reading a book, or seeing friends, or whatever works for you. At
the end of each day we say ‘how did we experience joy today?’
- Was given a book by a good friend called
‘Everything you Need to Know to Help you Beat Cancer’, by Chris
Woollams and this became my bible. I was impressed that Chris had the technical knowledge from
being a biochemist and the personal knowledge from his daughter’s
experience of a brain tumour.
- Gained a supporter in my Oncology Sister
and the team at the hospital. There
is always a listening ear and resultant action if required.
- Read books, articles and theories re
cancer and particularly my condition.
Attended motivating talks given by Chris
Woollams, Philip Day, Neale David Walsh.
Joined a support group to help with the
isolation I felt, particularly in the early part of this illness. Like people who knew what you were talking about and
understood how you felt.
Met with really good friends who were
happy to let me talk about what was happening to me and my hopes and
fears for the future. Being
able to honestly talk about this illness and not have to pretend was
paramount to my well-being.
Found every opportunity to laugh –
with friends and family, with Clive, and at myself. It took a while
for me to laugh again, but now it happens often.
- Reassessed what I ate and drank.
- Stopped alcohol (understood that the
liver has quite enough to cope with, without dealing with alcohol).
- After reading Chris Woollams book regarding
the body moving more towards a more alkaline state as opposed an acid
determined foods which would assist this. I have since read from other sources that this would assist.
- Ate organic fruit and vegetables.
- Cut out meat and dairy products. I read
through various mediums about the possible dangers of these products.
My cancer was found to be hormone receptive, and the last thing I
needed was more hormones. We do eat quite a bit of fish.
- My partner Clive joined me with my diet
and lifestyle. If people
do not have a partner I feel a ‘buddy’ of some sort could help.
- Received medical treatment for my spine
condition – a bisphosphonate which seems to be working well, plus
- Carried out investigation into various
vitamins and minerals that would help my immune system to function as
well as it could.
- Drank several cups of green tea every
- Carried out a detox (as shown in
Chris’s book) every 3-6 months. This was particularly to get toxins out of the body and assist
the liver and gallbladder.
- Visited a lady called Khai Eng who runs
a successful health food shop in Berkhamsted. I had been involved with Khai Eng when I was a trainer, and I
went to gain her thoughts. She
recommended I had Miso Soup every day. We decided to give it a go. Clive and I have developed our own Miso Soup recipe, which
gives the body and immune system a great kick in the mornings. I would be happy to give anyone the recipe. If we are away and do not have the soup, we actually miss it.
- Contacted a healing group, and have a
wonderful healer called Ray Wilson who is the founder of Gentle Touch
Healing. He visited me at the house every week to give healing. Being able to talk to Ray each week is just as helpful as the
healing. This group does not charge for their services, and is a
- Read books on the philosophies of life
by authors such as the Dali Lama, Louise Hay, Susan Jeffers etc.
- Took time out to relax and think, and
count my blessings.
- Worked in the garden and enjoyed seeing
things grow – previously I only really looked out of the window and
hardly had time to spend in the garden.
- Looked into how I could help others to
‘get out of the black hole’ that we find ourselves in when
diagnosed with a life threatening illness. Visited others experiencing
- Visited the theatre, concerts, cinema
– ‘the arts’ has always given me something special.
- Have written my ‘Thank You’ song for
all those people who have helped me through difficult times.
I would stress that all these things have
happened gradually over the three years. They just started one by one, and developed throughout the time. Even though it may sound as though they take over our lives, they
don’t! I usually just get on with my life and often do not think about
cancer. It is only when I receive some results, which may be disturbing,
when the mind really concentrates on the illness. Clive has always said to
me that the trick in life is to turn a negative experience into a
positive. I really do count my blessings now. We do many wonderful
things and these are not always expensive things.
I really feel there are benefits to having
cancer and in my case they are:
- It made me step off the treadmill of
constant work and look at another way of living.
- I have now worked out what is really
important in life!
- Gave me time to visit friends and family.
- Gave me time to spend with Clive and
thoroughly enjoy his company. If
I had kept working for another ten years, he would have been that much
older (he is currently 64 and would then be 74) and we may not have
been able to have the special times we have together.
- I now have the opportunity of visiting
other countries at a moment’s notice.
- Being there to assist my son when he
needed support (this has involved moving him from one accommodation to
another, and now being there for him having left university).
- I now have time to explore philosophies
and think about ‘what is my purpose in life?’
- Allowed me to explore my creative side
– photography, writing songs, scrapbooking etc.
- I gain such rewards from having the time
to help others.
I believe the above has helped me to cope
with cancer. I have done my
part. The future will take care of itself.
with cancer we have to lighten up – find the joy!
Ray Wilson - Founder of Gentle Touch Healing has
helped the dream tremendously. From the first stages of getting the song
onto CD to creating this website.